Thank you for choosing JadedLovers.com. Try to find a more honest dating site.
Jaded Lovers takes a little time to learn how to properly use, but once you have it down it’s a snap! Here’s a brief rundown of how to use the site.
If you are on your My Profile page:
This is your main hub. It’s the page which other users will see when they visit your profile.
My Essentials
Many of the fields on this tab are relevant to the Browse Search and Jaded Search, which are the basic and intermediate search features on Jaded Lovers, respectively.
If you wish to show up in results for the Browse Search and Jaded Search, be sure to complete your My Essentials tab.
About Me
This tab is not relevant to any search feature on Jaded Lovers, and is the place where you tell others about yourself in your own words.
My Jaded Profile
The fields on this tab are relevant to the Jaded Search and Relationship Type Search, which are the intermediate and advanced search features on Jaded Lovers, respectively.
If you wish to show up in results for the Jaded Search and Relationship Type Search, be sure to complete your My Jaded Profile tab.
My Preferences
This tab is not relevant to any search feature on Jaded Lovers, and is there only to let others learn more about you when they view your profile.
My Photos & Video
On this tab, upload photos and a video of yourself.
My Relationship Types
The fields on this tab are relevant to the Relationship Type Search, which is the advanced search feature on Jaded Lovers.
For each relationship type that you select, be sure to complete both the Requirements sub-tab and Insight sub-tab.
If you wish to show up in results for the Relationship Type Search, be sure to complete your entire My Relationship Types tab, including both the Requirements sub-tab and Insight sub-tab.
If you are on the Search page:
This is where you conduct searches for other members.
Browse Search tab
This search provides results based solely on responses given on members' My Profile > My Essentials tab.
Jaded Search tab
This search provides results based on responses given on members' My Profile > My Essentials tab and My Profile > My Jaded Profile tab.
Relationship Type Search tab
This search provides results based on responses given on members' My Profile > My Relationship Types tab (and both the Requirements and Insight sub-tabs) and My Profile > My Jaded Profile tab.
When filling out this search tab, select responses based on your own characteristics. Use this search to find members who are looking for you!
This search consists of two steps. Step 1 relates to members' My Profile > My Relationship Types tab > Requirements sub-tab. Step 2 relates to members' My Profile > My Relationship Types tab > Insight sub-tab, as well as their My Profile > My Jaded Profile tab.
Username Search tab
Use this tab to conduct a search based on username.
When you view another member’s profile:
Click on their My Essentials, About Me, My Jaded Profile, My Preferences, and My Photos & Video tabs to learn about them.
Click on their My Relationship Types tab to find out which relationship types they’re interested in, and what they’re looking for in each relationship type.
When viewing their My Relationship Types tab, remember to click on both their Requirements sub-tab and their Insight sub-tab.
If you are on your My Account page:
Here you will find information about your account. This page is not relevant to any search feature on Jaded Lovers, and no one will be able to view this page except you.
If you are on your My Lists page:
This is where you can see a quick rundown of the members whom you’ve viewed, added to your favorites, or blocked.
To add a member to your favorites or block a member, click the corresponding button in the bottom left corner when viewing their profile.
If you are on your Mail pages:
Use this to send and receive messages to and from other members.
If you have any questions, feel free to send Webmaster a message requesting assistance.
Have fun!
Transcripts of videos on the JadedLovers.com homepage:
Commercial 1:
Meet the two most popular members of your favorite online dating site: Jenny4579 and RockClimber81.
They take a great profile picture. But they look a little stiff, don't they? That's because they're fake. Just like up to 95% of the profiles on most online dating sites.
JadedLovers.com uses no fake profiles and hides expired members from search results.
We're not out to revolutionize the online dating site. We're just doing it the way it should have been done in the first place.
Tutorial Video:
Wanna know how to set up your Jaded Lovers profile so you’ll show up in all our search results?
It takes a little time to get the hang of, but once you have it down it's a snap.
First, you'll want to complete your My Essentials tab. This is where you fill out your general characteristics. And the responses you give here will get you showing up in both the Browse Search and the Jaded Search.
Even though there are fields on your My Essentials tab that don’t relate to any search at all, it's a good idea to complete the entire tab so others can learn about you when they view your profile.
Next, be sure to complete your My Jaded Profile tab. Here, you don’t mean to be a downer, but you want to let others know what - if anything - has made you jaded - and what you do about it!
The responses you give on this tab will get you showing up in both the Jaded Search and the Relationship Type Search. And it'll help you be found by people who do very specific searches. It's one of the most important profile tabs.
Speaking of important profile tabs, now we get to your My Relationship Types tab.
On your My Relationship Types tab, you select the relationship types that you're interested in, and the requirements that you have for a person in each relationship type…as well as some further insight - so people can find you by exactly what you're looking for in each relationship type!
Completing this tab thoroughly will get you showing up in even the most specific Relationship Type Searches. And since the Relationship Type Search is the main search feature on Jaded Lovers, it's definitely a good idea to spend some time filling out this tab.
Remember, when people do a Relationship Type Search, they'll search for you based on your requirements for whichever relationship types you're interested in. So keep that in mind when doing your own Relationship Type Searches.
Your About Me tab, My Preferences tab, and My Photos & Video tab are not related to any of the Jaded Lovers search features. But it's still a good idea to fill them out so people who view your profile will learn more about you.
That's a brief tutorial on how to complete your Jaded Lovers profile so you'll show up in results for each of our various search features. And remember, you can always send a message to Webmaster, requesting assistance.
Have fun!
Discussion of why we do not use a mathematical algorithm to match members:
Hi, this is Mike Smolev, founder of JadedLovers.com, with a brief discussion of why Jaded Lovers does not use a mathematical algorithm to match members.
It's because we feel that matching algorithms inherently cannot work.
Our opinion is that, first of all, in order for us to offer a matching algorithm that would have even a chance of approaching relevancy, we'd have to ask people hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of questions, if not more that, and very few people would actually take the time to answer all of them. I know there are some other websites that ask a lot of questions of their members, and I've never heard of anyone actually taking the time to answer all of them. And, if you don’t have an answer to every question - from every single member - you don’t have enough information to even try to use an algorithm that's going to start to match people. That's the way I feel. So, from a practical standpoint, I don’t think it's realistic. Secondly, no mathematical algorithm is going to be able to take into account real life activity. You can say in a survey that you always treat everyone the way you'd want to be treated, but when you're actually in the situation in real life, sometimes you don't do everything exactly as you wish you might have. And I think everyone agrees that real life is more revealing than the responses you give on a survey. So, again, speaking practically, if you agree that real life is more revealing than a survey, which I think everyone does, then why would you to try to sell someone on the idea that you have some wonderful survey? You're promoting something that everyone already agrees is really not all that relevant. Besides that, it's been well-documented that people lie on such surveys anyway. So the idea that a website is going to market itself by saying it has some magical matching algorithm? Frankly, our opinion is that it's a marketing ploy.
At Jaded Lovers, we provide an honest virtual meeting ground, with no gimmicks. Come check us out today!
Discussion of online safety:
Hi, this is Mike Smolev, founder of JadedLovers.com, with a brief discussion of why Jaded Lovers does not do background checks on people as a condition of their using the website.
And if someone wants to call this a spin, you can call it a spin. But the way that we see it is this:
First of all, let's discuss criminal databases. Even in the United States, there's currently nothing that resembles a national criminal database which is accessible to anyone except government entities. There are state criminal databases that we have access to. But the state databases have varying standards from state to state, and some of these standards are not adhered to. And if a state's database is not updated correctly, or is not 100% accurate, then we feel that to approve someone based on it - or give approval to someone based on it - would be misleading. And we would rather have people be vigilant on their own, and do their diligence. I will get back to what I mean about that.
Now, let's discuss the United States sex offender registry. It is national. We do have access to it. We could in theory check against it with more reliability than we could a criminal database. However, the U.S. sex offender registry has its own flaws with regard to how often it's updated and for whom it's updated, it has its own debates over whether it actually makes anyone safer, and frankly it targets some people in such a way that we think is unfair. For example, in some states, if you're nineteen years old and you have sex with a seventeen year-old, you get put on the sex offender registry. And we don't think that's right. Now, you can argue that that is right. But we feel that it's not right. So to blanket everyone into this group, and say, "Oops you're on the sex offender registry; you can't join our website" - we don't think that would amount to an accurate appraisal of who is dangerous and who is not dangerous. Again, call that a spin if you want to. There are websites that do perform such checks. Some do it happily; some have been sort of nudged into doing it. But, if any of these websites wants to accuse Jaded Lovers of not caring about our members, I'm happy to go head to head with them on the subject of who cares more about their members. And I think if you read, on our site, the philosophy of our site, I think you'll agree. Besides that, to me, once you condone the use of fake profiles on your website, you instantly relinquish your right to say that you care about your members.
We do not want to mislead our members into having a false sense of security. We want our members to be vigilant. I will get back to what I mean by this.
Before I do that, secondly, at present, Jaded Lovers is trying to be a worldwide community. And even the international countries that do have a national criminal database have the same sort of restrictions of use as those in the United States: You have to be a government agency to have access to them. And they have the same sorts of limitations with regard to any sex offender registries that they may have. Now, that said, if the United States ever gets a national criminal database, with national standards that are adhered to with penalties for those states or counties that do not adhere to them, we will reexamine this issue. In that case we might separate the communities so members in the U.S. will only be able to communicate with other members in the U.S., and members outside the U.S. may not be able to communicate with the members inside the U.S. If every single country gets something like this going, maybe we'll make it so people in each country can communicate with only other people in their own country. We're not at that point yet. We're not at that point yet from a membership standpoint, and we're not at that point yet in that most countries don't have such a set up in place. If we find that such a set up is beginning to come into place, we will reexamine this issue. But, until that happens, we feel that for us to provide background checks which might not even be accurate would serve more to give our members a false sense of security than anything else.
We would rather have our members be vigilant. What does this mean?
It means expect the best, but remember that the best usually can't be determined after one date - especially with someone that you've never met before.
Meet in a public place several times before going back to someone's home. Use every precaution that would use if you were to meet someone for the first time in a bar or a bookstore, or any other place. You know, if you want to be looking for a one night stand, you can do that on Jaded Lovers. We're not going to tell you how to live your life. But we don't condone it. We'd rather have you go slow, take precautions. People say, "Well, then why do you offer that type of relationship on Jaded Lovers?" Because Jaded Lovers is for grownups. Grown ups can make their own decisions. But we want to remind you that, if you meet somebody in a bar for the first time, and you immediately decide to go home with that person, it's probably not the best idea. And it's the same way with online dating. And anyone who tells you that it's somehow different, in our opinion, is wrong. You've got to treat people that you meet online with the same precautions that you would for any other person that you were meeting for the first time. There is nothing that we can do to change that. That's the way we feel. Now, there is much more about this on the Protect Your Self & Kids page, which is accessible via the footer menu of every page of JadedLovers.com. Please read it. Because we do care. We care a lot. We want everyone to be safe and happy. But we don't monitor everyone's actions, because you wouldn't want us to.
So please, do your thing, have fun, but keep your eyes open.
Thank you.
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Tutorial
Thank you for choosing JadedLovers.com. Try to find a more honest dating site.
Jaded Lovers takes a little time to learn how to properly use, but once you have it down it’s a snap! Here’s a brief rundown of how to use the site.
If you are on your My Profile page:
This is your main hub. It’s the page which other users will see when they visit your profile.
My Essentials
Many of the fields on this tab are relevant to the Browse Search and Jaded Search, which are the basic and intermediate search features on Jaded Lovers, respectively.
If you wish to show up in results for the Browse Search and Jaded Search, be sure to complete your My Essentials tab.
About Me
This tab is not relevant to any search feature on Jaded Lovers, and is the place where you tell others about yourself in your own words.
My Jaded Profile
The fields on this tab are relevant to the Jaded Search and Relationship Type Search, which are the intermediate and advanced search features on Jaded Lovers, respectively.
If you wish to show up in results for the Jaded Search and Relationship Type Search, be sure to complete your My Jaded Profile tab.
My Preferences
This tab is not relevant to any search feature on Jaded Lovers, and is there only to let others learn more about you when they view your profile.
My Photos & Video
On this tab, upload photos and a video of yourself.
My Relationship Types
The fields on this tab are relevant to the Relationship Type Search, which is the advanced search feature on Jaded Lovers.
For each relationship type that you select, be sure to complete both the Requirements sub-tab and Insight sub-tab.
If you wish to show up in results for the Relationship Type Search, be sure to complete your entire My Relationship Types tab, including both the Requirements sub-tab and Insight sub-tab.
If you are on the Search page:
This is where you conduct searches for other members.
Browse Search tab
This search provides results based solely on responses given on members' My Profile > My Essentials tab.
Jaded Search tab
This search provides results based on responses given on members' My Profile > My Essentials tab and My Profile > My Jaded Profile tab.
Relationship Type Search tab
This search provides results based on responses given on members' My Profile > My Relationship Types tab (and both the Requirements and Insight sub-tabs) and My Profile > My Jaded Profile tab.
When filling out this search tab, select responses based on your own characteristics. Use this search to find members who are looking for you!
This search consists of two steps. Step 1 relates to members' My Profile > My Relationship Types tab > Requirements sub-tab. Step 2 relates to members' My Profile > My Relationship Types tab > Insight sub-tab, as well as their My Profile > My Jaded Profile tab.
Username Search tab
Use this tab to conduct a search based on username.
When you view another member’s profile:
Click on their My Essentials, About Me, My Jaded Profile, My Preferences, and My Photos & Video tabs to learn about them.
Click on their My Relationship Types tab to find out which relationship types they’re interested in, and what they’re looking for in each relationship type.
When viewing their My Relationship Types tab, remember to click on both their Requirements sub-tab and their Insight sub-tab.
If you are on your My Account page:
Here you will find information about your account. This page is not relevant to any search feature on Jaded Lovers, and no one will be able to view this page except you.
If you are on your My Lists page:
This is where you can see a quick rundown of the members whom you’ve viewed, added to your favorites, or blocked.
To add a member to your favorites or block a member, click the corresponding button in the bottom left corner when viewing their profile.
If you are on your Mail pages:
Use this to send and receive messages to and from other members.
If you have any questions, feel free to send Webmaster a message requesting assistance.
Have fun!
Transcripts of videos on the JadedLovers.com homepage:
Commercial 1:
Meet the two most popular members of your favorite online dating site: Jenny4579 and RockClimber81.
They take a great profile picture. But they look a little stiff, don't they? That's because they're fake. Just like up to 95% of the profiles on most online dating sites.
JadedLovers.com uses no fake profiles and hides expired members from search results.
We're not out to revolutionize the online dating site. We're just doing it the way it should have been done in the first place.
Tutorial Video:
Wanna know how to set up your Jaded Lovers profile so you’ll show up in all our search results?
It takes a little time to get the hang of, but once you have it down it's a snap.
First, you'll want to complete your My Essentials tab. This is where you fill out your general characteristics. And the responses you give here will get you showing up in both the Browse Search and the Jaded Search.
Even though there are fields on your My Essentials tab that don’t relate to any search at all, it's a good idea to complete the entire tab so others can learn about you when they view your profile.
Next, be sure to complete your My Jaded Profile tab. Here, you don’t mean to be a downer, but you want to let others know what - if anything - has made you jaded - and what you do about it!
The responses you give on this tab will get you showing up in both the Jaded Search and the Relationship Type Search. And it'll help you be found by people who do very specific searches. It's one of the most important profile tabs.
Speaking of important profile tabs, now we get to your My Relationship Types tab.
On your My Relationship Types tab, you select the relationship types that you're interested in, and the requirements that you have for a person in each relationship type…as well as some further insight - so people can find you by exactly what you're looking for in each relationship type!
Completing this tab thoroughly will get you showing up in even the most specific Relationship Type Searches. And since the Relationship Type Search is the main search feature on Jaded Lovers, it's definitely a good idea to spend some time filling out this tab.
Remember, when people do a Relationship Type Search, they'll search for you based on your requirements for whichever relationship types you're interested in. So keep that in mind when doing your own Relationship Type Searches.
Your About Me tab, My Preferences tab, and My Photos & Video tab are not related to any of the Jaded Lovers search features. But it's still a good idea to fill them out so people who view your profile will learn more about you.
That's a brief tutorial on how to complete your Jaded Lovers profile so you'll show up in results for each of our various search features. And remember, you can always send a message to Webmaster, requesting assistance.
Have fun!
Discussion of why we do not use a mathematical algorithm to match members:
Hi, this is Mike Smolev, founder of JadedLovers.com, with a brief discussion of why Jaded Lovers does not use a mathematical algorithm to match members.
It's because we feel that matching algorithms inherently cannot work.
Our opinion is that, first of all, in order for us to offer a matching algorithm that would have even a chance of approaching relevancy, we'd have to ask people hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of questions, if not more that, and very few people would actually take the time to answer all of them. I know there are some other websites that ask a lot of questions of their members, and I've never heard of anyone actually taking the time to answer all of them. And, if you don’t have an answer to every question - from every single member - you don’t have enough information to even try to use an algorithm that's going to start to match people. That's the way I feel. So, from a practical standpoint, I don’t think it's realistic. Secondly, no mathematical algorithm is going to be able to take into account real life activity. You can say in a survey that you always treat everyone the way you'd want to be treated, but when you're actually in the situation in real life, sometimes you don't do everything exactly as you wish you might have. And I think everyone agrees that real life is more revealing than the responses you give on a survey. So, again, speaking practically, if you agree that real life is more revealing than a survey, which I think everyone does, then why would you to try to sell someone on the idea that you have some wonderful survey? You're promoting something that everyone already agrees is really not all that relevant. Besides that, it's been well-documented that people lie on such surveys anyway. So the idea that a website is going to market itself by saying it has some magical matching algorithm? Frankly, our opinion is that it's a marketing ploy.
At Jaded Lovers, we provide an honest virtual meeting ground, with no gimmicks. Come check us out today!
Discussion of online safety:
Hi, this is Mike Smolev, founder of JadedLovers.com, with a brief discussion of why Jaded Lovers does not do background checks on people as a condition of their using the website.
And if someone wants to call this a spin, you can call it a spin. But the way that we see it is this:
First of all, let's discuss criminal databases. Even in the United States, there's currently nothing that resembles a national criminal database which is accessible to anyone except government entities. There are state criminal databases that we have access to. But the state databases have varying standards from state to state, and some of these standards are not adhered to. And if a state's database is not updated correctly, or is not 100% accurate, then we feel that to approve someone based on it - or give approval to someone based on it - would be misleading. And we would rather have people be vigilant on their own, and do their diligence. I will get back to what I mean about that.
Now, let's discuss the United States sex offender registry. It is national. We do have access to it. We could in theory check against it with more reliability than we could a criminal database. However, the U.S. sex offender registry has its own flaws with regard to how often it's updated and for whom it's updated, it has its own debates over whether it actually makes anyone safer, and frankly it targets some people in such a way that we think is unfair. For example, in some states, if you're nineteen years old and you have sex with a seventeen year-old, you get put on the sex offender registry. And we don't think that's right. Now, you can argue that that is right. But we feel that it's not right. So to blanket everyone into this group, and say, "Oops you're on the sex offender registry; you can't join our website" - we don't think that would amount to an accurate appraisal of who is dangerous and who is not dangerous. Again, call that a spin if you want to. There are websites that do perform such checks. Some do it happily; some have been sort of nudged into doing it. But, if any of these websites wants to accuse Jaded Lovers of not caring about our members, I'm happy to go head to head with them on the subject of who cares more about their members. And I think if you read, on our site, the philosophy of our site, I think you'll agree. Besides that, to me, once you condone the use of fake profiles on your website, you instantly relinquish your right to say that you care about your members.
We do not want to mislead our members into having a false sense of security. We want our members to be vigilant. I will get back to what I mean by this.
Before I do that, secondly, at present, Jaded Lovers is trying to be a worldwide community. And even the international countries that do have a national criminal database have the same sort of restrictions of use as those in the United States: You have to be a government agency to have access to them. And they have the same sorts of limitations with regard to any sex offender registries that they may have. Now, that said, if the United States ever gets a national criminal database, with national standards that are adhered to with penalties for those states or counties that do not adhere to them, we will reexamine this issue. In that case we might separate the communities so members in the U.S. will only be able to communicate with other members in the U.S., and members outside the U.S. may not be able to communicate with the members inside the U.S. If every single country gets something like this going, maybe we'll make it so people in each country can communicate with only other people in their own country. We're not at that point yet. We're not at that point yet from a membership standpoint, and we're not at that point yet in that most countries don't have such a set up in place. If we find that such a set up is beginning to come into place, we will reexamine this issue. But, until that happens, we feel that for us to provide background checks which might not even be accurate would serve more to give our members a false sense of security than anything else.
We would rather have our members be vigilant. What does this mean?
It means expect the best, but remember that the best usually can't be determined after one date - especially with someone that you've never met before.
Meet in a public place several times before going back to someone's home. Use every precaution that would use if you were to meet someone for the first time in a bar or a bookstore, or any other place. You know, if you want to be looking for a one night stand, you can do that on Jaded Lovers. We're not going to tell you how to live your life. But we don't condone it. We'd rather have you go slow, take precautions. People say, "Well, then why do you offer that type of relationship on Jaded Lovers?" Because Jaded Lovers is for grownups. Grown ups can make their own decisions. But we want to remind you that, if you meet somebody in a bar for the first time, and you immediately decide to go home with that person, it's probably not the best idea. And it's the same way with online dating. And anyone who tells you that it's somehow different, in our opinion, is wrong. You've got to treat people that you meet online with the same precautions that you would for any other person that you were meeting for the first time. There is nothing that we can do to change that. That's the way we feel. Now, there is much more about this on the Protect Your Self & Kids page, which is accessible via the footer menu of every page of JadedLovers.com. Please read it. Because we do care. We care a lot. We want everyone to be safe and happy. But we don't monitor everyone's actions, because you wouldn't want us to.
So please, do your thing, have fun, but keep your eyes open.
Thank you.